Let me level with you.
I’ve only been married for five years. I have three kids, ages 21, 16 and 8. We are truly a modern family. My husband, Eric, adopted my daughter Annelena when she was 5. My bonus kids, Hannah and Ethan, are such amazing young people that I was actually (pleasantly) surprised when I met them. They haven’t changed, and they make pretty amazing role models in turn for one another.
In spite of that, blending was NOT easy. I think the biggest reason was that our individual and family values were different. Coming in to our marriage, all five of us had a different set of expectations and core beliefs. We all knew what we like, how we want to be treated, and how we like to communicate, but none of that was spoken. Certainly, none of that was written down.
It is very difficult to understand a spouse, a teenager, a friend, or a coworker, when you don’t understand their origin values, their inherited values, or their core values. It is even harder when you do not recognize or have not named your own set of values. Once we named our values, we were able to start having family meetings. Family meetings are a skill that has to be practiced to be effective. At first it was super uncomfortable for everyone. But eventually we developed a rhythm, and now my family even admits that they enjoy our family meetings!
In our family meetings we are able to connect based on our shared values. We know what is happening in each other’s lives. The benefits carry-on from there, too. Our kids can effectively run a group meeting because of this practice at home. That’s a great skill for future leadership.
As the holidays are upon us, ask yourself this: “What would happen if I could have a stress-less holiday experience? What if I could have meaningful conversations with my family or resolve old differences based on spoken values?”
If you’d like to answer these questions, I invite you to join me for RELATE.
RELATE is a course about you and your values.
November 5 – December 17
During RELATE, you will dive deep into identifying and expressing your personal values. You will clearly define your expectations for friendships, colleagues, and potential future relationships. You will discover the most common source of conflict and simple routes to resolution. In RELATE, I’ll teach you how to have effective family meetings. If you have children, you will also empower your them to handle conflict in a safe and healthy way.
Here’s how the course works:
Over six weeks, you will explore your personal and family values. You’ll take steps to correct any misalignments you discover. As we enter into the holiday season, we will also look at how living from our core values will help us navigate tough relationships, resolve conflicts, and create your idea holiday experience – rooted in your values.
The course includes:
- Weekly online group coaching meetings
- A private forum for support and encouragement
- Worksheets and other resources
- Enrollment for your Spouse, Best Friend, or other Family Member FREE
If you want to manifest a new relationship, grow your current ones, and have the best Holiday Season ever, Relate is right for you.
I sincerely hope that you will join me for RELATE. You’ll find out how powerful it is to name your personal values, discover your family values, learn to have effective family meetings, and design your holiday experience.
Please join us!
If you have questions, reply to this message, or schedule a free call with Alex Biondo, our program specialist (schedule here).